Activating Your Inner Jaguar changes how you treat yourself, how you love, how you show up for relationships, how you parent, how you deal with money, and how you do sex.
"I find myself completely rethinking much of my entire life since starting this course. How I parent and relate to other people is changing. There were many behaviors in myself and others that I used to moralize and collapse into shame and despair, but now I see they are nervous system issues! It's made some things that felt impossibly dark feel approachable and not so scary! Like I can suddenly handle the thought of those things in my life." ~ Amanda, Jaguar student
"Taking time to listen, to feel into my body, and choose different words and actions has really helped reset my nervous system and the dynamics in my partnership. I’m approaching communication differently and it’s really supported a healthier & less charged dynamic for both of us. Activate Your Inner Jaguar has helped me realize there is still so much I can do, to shape many of my relationships for the better."
~ Meg, Jaguar student
One of the most surprising yet consistent things I see in my work is that the biggest leaps in women's sexual healing journeys come when they learn to activate predator energy.
When I started Somatic Experiencing training 6 years ago, I was terrified of the word "predator," and couldn't have imagined that this would be the missing link to most of the work I do with women, whether helping them heal from birth trauma or sexual trauma.
When we activate predator energy, we are not trying to become predators: we are learning to occupy the full range of human, mammalian experience. Could a jaguar survive if it couldn’t bear its teeth to protect her young from predators or the food of her young? Could a jaguar survive if she could not hunt? That same jaguar relaxes, licks her cubs, teaches them to hunt, plays with them. She is full spectrum. She lives in the moment, and responds to the moment.
To become bigger, to heal, and to understand and communicate what we truly desire in life, love, partnership, work and family, we need to occupy each end of the spectrum (predator/prey), and every shade in between.
Due to both trauma AND our every day lives, we become blocked from certain responses and completions in our nervous system. This course teaches you about YOUR nervous system, how to work with it, and how to move into your full capacity for love, pleasure, fierceness, and being human.
This course is for:
- all genders
- and people who want to become more human.
- practitioners and healers
Understanding YOUR unique nervous system (your own flight, fight and freeze responses) can be one of the most powerful experiences and footholds you can ever gain.
If you have done years of therapy and/or coaching, but still find life to be exhausting, your relationships difficult, and sex mysterious, discovering your own nervous system patterns may be the missing link.
If you are a bodyworker, therapist, or healer, your ability to understand your own nervous system, as well as decode and allow someone to see their own activation patterns, is one of the keys to doing deeper work with your clients.
Activate Your Inner Jaguar is for you if you experience:
- chronic yeast infections or BV, pain during sex
- shut-down around sex (low desire or pleasure)
- a proclivity to end up in experiences (sexual or otherwise) you're not sure you wanted
- confusion around boundaries in work and life
- a disconnect between what you want in life, and what you're getting
- the seeming inability to shift into a "positive outlook"
In this six-week course, we will:
- Demystify the key elements of the nervous system and how to track them in yourself and others, for deeper self-acceptance, capacity, and transformation
- Create and maintain boundaries with love
- Clear up confusion about why your mind says one thing while your body says another
- Understand the way your psyche has constructed sex- what's in your sex suitcase?
- Clarify your "Yes"es and "No"s
- Illuminate what Sex actually IS from a nervous system perspective
- Understand your patterns with safety and sex
- Experience YOUR unique nervous system and how it works
- 6 weeks, starting July 3rd
- six 75min weekly webinars (recorded if you’re unable to attend live) July 3 - August 7, at 11am PST
- weekly lessons
- powerful personal inquiries & assignments
- a private Facebook community
What students are saying about Activate Your Inner Jaguar
"I find myself completely rethinking much of my entire life since starting this course. How I parent and relate to other people is changing. There were many behaviors in myself and others that I used to moralize and collapse into shame and despair, but now I see they are nervous system issues! It's made some things that felt impossibly dark feel approachable and not so scary! Like I can suddenly handle the thought of those things in my life.
A weird thing (I realize now it's weird, but didn't see it before) I noticed myself doing is getting into really submissive postures, sitting or laying on the floor when people come over even though they sit in chairs normally. I never realized this was inviting dominating behavior on their part until I tried changing my behavior channel. It was!"
"Now that I've taken the course, I stand up for myself more often and with less hesitation. I make more choices instead of remain passive in sexual situations."
"After taking this course, I'm noticing when I'm in fight, flight, or freeze now, and I've learned ways to regulate my nervous system. I really notice when I am feeling like the "prey" and what's causing the activation, how that looks in my body.
I realized how many times I felt I went too far into a sexual moment with someone and couldn't say no, so I went along with it. Looking at that and feeling into my messages around that is pretty big."
"Taking this course with Kimberly has revolutionized my sex life, and I'm not exaggerating. Even though I had done lots of sexual healing before the calls, I was still having a hard time translating that knowledge and compassion into real-life boundaries. During sex, I tended to follow a guy's lead, not asking any questions, and often getting angry after sex, at myself and at him, for going too far, or tolerating certain touches. I didn't understand this rut I was in. In this course I realized that somewhere along the way I didn't learn how to say no, how to pause, how to truly slow down and check in with me, beyond the social conditioning and my stories about what men wanted.
This course isn't always overtly sexual, but it all applies to sex, if that makes sense. It's about your body, how to read your reactions, and how to feel safe. The knowledge extends to sex and any interaction with another human, really."
"I would tell someone to take this course if they are looking for ways to shift their perspective, nervous system, and connect with themselves, their partners and their innate wisdom to learn, heal and grow individually."
What makes this different than previous Jaguar courses:
This course runs for 6 weeks, rather than 4.
- This course will focus not only on somatic experiencing and the nervous system, but will include more real-life understanding of how these concepts and embodied experiences apply to sex. The two extra weeks will go into uncovering specific sexual topics: What is sex? What is a boundary? What is embodied consent? We'll also cover sex and attachment styles. These extra weeks were designed to land the information not only in your body for everyday life, but for sexual experiences as well
A single face-to-face session with me costs $300. This course will cover more than we could ever cover in a 90 minute session. You will reap the benefits and "a-ha" moments long after the course is over. Please join us for this deep dive into your own being.
Is this course for me if I haven't experienced outright trauma, sexual or otherwise?
Yes. This course was designed to give you a felt experience of power in your body, and for you to learn the ways that your body might be saying "no," while your mouth is saying "yes." This course is about owning your power, in a real way that translates to real-life boundary-setting in your relationships.
You'll learn why boundaries aren't a bad thing—they come from deep, internal experience, and allow you to live your life in a way that feels congruent in your mind, body, spirit, and soul.
What if I can't join the live webinars?
No problem at all. We've had over 225 women take this course, and very few were able to come to each live webinar (and some couldn't attend any live, because of work and other commitments). The videos in this course are meant to be watched sometime during the week—you'll get a replay of each video within 24 hours of the live call. You'll receive information and experiential exercises in each video that you can work with all week.
We know that it's summer and that you may not be able to make each webinar live; you will get just as much out of the course whether you watch the lectures live or sometime during the week. You'll be able to connect with other participants in the Facebook group anytime.
How much time will I spend on course materials each week?
The classes will be approximately 75 minutes long, and we'll give you some experiential exercises to incorporate into your daily life during the week. All-in-all you'll be spending about two hours on course material (plus whatever you fold into your daily interactions).
I often say this course is about learning to be human. In this course I'll teach you to drop beneath the surface, where the body has a magnificent intelligence of what it needs to do to unwind itself. It's waiting for us to listen, to create a deep safety and resonance, to create the conditions where letting go is possible.
If you're tired all the time, if you've done all the things, if you're exhausted by the constant searching and trying to feel better, I assure you there is a deeper level of intelligence inside you, waiting to be discovered. The good news is that we have the technology and we can do it together.